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Preparing to Mediate

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.  You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.Eleanor Roosevelt

Couples should always come to the mediation table prepared.  Providing you with the tools to help increase your productivity is part of our job.

The preparation process involves several dynamics:

Self reflection – Am I ready to address the issues in a fair way?  Can I set aside my anger or hurt to the extent that we can do the best thing for our situation?  Can I focus on my children and their needs?

Review of the issues – Personally considering the issues before you mediate helps you get your mind focused on the task at hand.  Knowing how you feel — in advance — about spending time with the children at Christmas or what you wish to do with the marital home greatly increases your productivity at the conference room table.

Knowing what to expect Knowing how your mediation will be conducted and how your thoughts and actions affect you is paramount to a successful session.  Learn the ropes from an attorney and a mental health professional on how you can improve your outlook as well as your effectiveness while mediating.

Mediation is your idea and your spouse isn’t so sure – Excellent guidance on how to have the highest level of success in proposing mediation as an alternative to bullying each other in court.